I've lived in America for five years, and my Nigerian guy friends have set my standards really high.
It's fascinating when an American man keeps telling me how much he likes me but doesn't even do the basics my Nigerian friends do.
My Nigerian friends always make sure I'm away from traffic when we're walking. If I mention a problem with my car, they immediately check on me and ask questions to make sure everything is fine.
These guys have girlfriends, so it's not like they're trying to date me.
So when a man says he likes me but doesn't show that same level of care, I wonder how much he really likes me.
Even when we're buying something as small as water, my Nigerian friends usually pay for everyone. So if a man spends the whole evening telling me he likes me and then wants us to split the cost of a bottle of water, I'm like, really?
In my opinion, a boyfriend or potential love interest should make my life better than it already is.
If you're not going to do even what my friends are already doing, then what's the point of you?”
— A Nigerian woman in America explains how her Nigerian male friends have shaped her dating standards and why American men struggle to impress her
