She advised women to be open with their parents about the emotional struggles they face in relationships, arguing that honesty helps families understand why there is no need to rush into marriage.
“Ladies, the reason why your parents are stressing and disturbing you for marriage is because you don’t tell them what you go through in that relationship.
Una no dey tell them wetin una eyes dey see. Try dey talk, because me, I dey tell my mama everything. Yes. I’m not sure she will wake up one day and start disturbing me for husband, like I need to get married.
The last breakfast wey I chop, I called her and started crying while calling my boyfriend’s name. She asked, ‘What happened? He d!£?’ I say no. ‘He dey hospital?’ I say no. So why are you now crying? I told her everything, and she just said, ‘Eeeheeeh.’
Few weeks later, I wanted to go on a date. She said, no, rest and heal. I told her it was only a friendship date. She said, okay, but if it’s relationship, don’t involve yourself.
Anyone that comes into my life, I tell her. The only time I did not listen to her and I said yes, I came back crying.
So tell me, where will they have the time to be disturbing you about marriage after you’ve told them everything? They can see it and also experience it with you.
Who go like make him pikin dey cry? Them go dey tell you, ‘No rush oo, abeeg.’ Una go dey hide everything, dey cover everything.
In my family, they don’t have that mentality of, ‘When are you bringing husband?’ because they know everything, and we dey cry everything together...”
- Popular comedian Tomama explains why parents pressure their daughters to marry, saying many women hide the p@in they endure in relationships.
